love references

today while swimming i remembered the idea i developed sometimes after coming back from africa. although i don't want to compare working and love relationships, there is one feature which connects and divides both. as we go through jobs, we build our cv and we keep references to our past employers. so, why don't we do it with our love affairs, too?

imagine one each would have a notebook with such references. on the end of a relationships, we would swap our notebooks and write there a record. basically, to answer questions like:

• why did i get involved with you?
• what were the expectations?
• were they filled up?
• likes, dislikes?
• what has developed, what has not?
• what were (from my point of view) reasons for breaking off?

then, at some specific point in new relationship (not too early but not too late either), we would swap our books and read them. we could then have a talk and make conclusions: there's something we can work on and improve, something to be aware of, or, well, there's nothing to do with this one.

of course this idea works only if relationship doesn't end in hate and with no communication at all. i thought i could handle it because i would rather be with people in good friendship than in bad relationship.

you may think i'm talking nonsense but since i'll turn 33 the next january and don't want to make another wrong decisions i might start working on my portfolio tomorrow.

off topic: i got some petrol today, actually full tank plus a reserve, and the bill was for 444.44 crowns. weird.